TIPS FOR YOUR FIRST BDSM SESSION
The BDSM session is a sexual practice which is tied to the couple , this action provides pleasure to both the person who is tied as to...
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BDSM Session Love
Sometimes, halfway through a carefully planned to guide BDSM session, you will feel a sudden inspiration . Following your instinct at that time can be risky, especially if your bottom is expecting something different. But, if your inspiration is not a limit for the person you dominate, it may be your intuition guiding you towards something wonderful; some of our moments during a session have been spontaneous impulses of this type.
On the other hand, sometimes you see yourself without an idea, a bad case of “white leaf disease” as we said before . A good strategy in this situation is to do what worked in the last session you did or, if you are in the middle of the session, you can go back to do a little more than was working before: There is no rule that says more of a good thing to be done.
A dominant person we know taught us another great strategy for times like this: Don't do anything. Just stop and focus on yourself again. Take a deep breath once or twice. Look at you, look at your bottom. Wait. Inspiration will come. Your bottom is not going anywhere. This may sound like a very long time, but it really only lasts a minute or two ... and many dominated people love suspense.
KEEP THE RHYTHM
Tops that you know have all sorts of tricks to keep a session going without breaking your energy. Lots of ideas we will cover in this section fall into two categories: Supportive and caring ways to keep pace in the session, and other ways that achieve the same goal BDSM session in a hard way and built around fantasy. of non-consent. In both cases you are trying to do the same: Get support and information for yourself and give support and encouragement for your bottom, but the way you manage to achieve those goals depends on the role you are playing.
TAKE CONTROL
Something important to remember is that your goal is to “disconnect the brain from your bottom”, to make it melt into a docile state of excitement and hypersensuality without will. The more control, verbal and physical you exercise, the easier it will be for your bottom to give you control over his person.
It is a good idea to offer BDSM session your bottom as few choices as possible . "Lie in bed" is not a very good command, because it leaves many open doubts in the mind of the dominated person. It is better to "lie on the bed, face down, with your head towards the head of the bed, your legs together and your arms apart."
You may want to offer options to your bottom as part of the mind game . "Six with the rod or fifty with the flogger? Choose". But if you do, do it intentionally, and make it clear that you are offering those options not because you have lost the thread but because you enjoy seeing how your bottom has a hard time deciding it.
It can also work well to physically control your bottom : Pushing, holding, dragging, holding. We did a session that played with that idea of physical control:
Dossie was a recently captured slave in a country where she did not speak the same language; Janet was its new owner and was not very talkative. While Dossie begged, complained, offered bribes, was furious and resisted, Janet simply physically forced her (with the little help of floggers and rods and paddles) to kneel, dance, suck on Janet's breasts, masturbate and other important " essential skills ”of a slave. For a couple of talkers like us, it was a fabulously liberating session; Dossie couldn't escape the situation by speaking and Janet found herself being able to be physically tough, pulling hair, pushing, twisting her arms and the like, in a way that is usually difficult for her.
Giving clear, forceful orders can be difficult for many dominating people, perhaps especially women, who are culturally forced not to be authoritarian. An exercise Janet teaches in her workshops for first-time dominant women is having their bottoms caress the feet of their femdoms while they give specific orders on where to rub, how hard to do it, and at what pace. Although the exercise may sound simple, it is difficult for many of the attendees. If you're having trouble giving orders, it might be a good idea for you to practice this all-important skill.
ASK FOR INFORMATION
While in BDSM session fantasies a lot is that the dominating person is getting their pleasure by giving him or her what their bottom wants, the reality is that you are doing this for mutual enjoyment, and you cannot achieve mutual pleasure without some information from your bottom about what you like. But most bottoms don't like to feel like they're running the session: If they wanted to run sessions, they'd be tops. So you need to think of ways to get the information you need without seeming to give up control.
The ritual of ordering your bottom to kiss the whip or any other toy is actually a procedure to ask for consent . The threat creates anticipation while giving your bottom a chance to voice their concerns. Other dominating people enjoy making their bottom choose the toy they want to try; We know one who likes to display all his toys in plain sight and tell his bottom: "Bring me an object to cause you pain and another to give you pleasure."
Another way to get information is verbal, and in this the tone of voice and the way of expressing it matters a lot . You know, and we know that the phrase "I'd like to hit you with the cane now, is that okay with you?" and "You are about to take a punishment with the cane that you will never forget, bitch" mean more or less the same, but certainly do not give the same feeling to your bottom.
The trick to getting information from the top position is to construct a BDSM session in a way that sounds like you are ordering it for your own pleasure, not hesitating trying to figure out what your bottom will like . ”
TIPS FOR YOUR FIRST BDSM SESSION AS DOMINANT
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